Balancing Multiple Offers Without Losing Your Mind

For some athletes, the recruiting journey quickly turns into a juggling act: multiple schools showing interest, scholarship packages on the table, and deadlines looming. Exciting? Absolutely. Stressful? Without a doubt.

Overwhelm is Normal

Feeling anxious is natural when faced with life-changing decisions. The key is to slow down, breathe, and lean on your support system—parents, club coaches, mentors, or trusted friends.

Define Your Core Values

Before comparing numbers and timelines, know what matters most to you:

• Academics – Does the school offer your intended major?

• Culture – Do you connect with the players and coaches?

• Location – Can you see yourself living there?

• Finances – What’s realistic for your family?

Having this framework keeps you grounded when emotions run high.

Honesty Wins Every Time

Both coaches emphasized the same point: be transparent.

• Don’t play schools against each other.

• If you need more time, ask. The worst a coach can say is “no.”

• If you’re leaning toward another program, say so respectfully.

Remember, this is a small lacrosse world—relationships last beyond one decision.

The Money Question

With the new NCAA settlement, every program is handling scholarships differently. Don’t be afraid to ask:

• How does your athletic department support women’s lacrosse?

• What should we realistically expect for financial aid?

Takeaway:

Balancing offers is about more than picking the biggest scholarship. Stay true to your values, ask the hard questions, and remember that authenticity and honesty are your best tools.